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A Swede in Germany

Trolling or honest interest?

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Every now and then, I encounter a particular type of commenter who puzzles me:

She (women appear to dominate) asks a vaguely formulated (or otherwise open to interpretation) question, without giving any actual input to the discussion, awaits the resulting answers—and limits her involvement to statements like “Please clarify.” and other means of eliciting further reactions from other readers. Often this is combined with a statement of having an “honest interest” in others opinions.

Now: Is this a subtle form of trolling or really a sign of honest interest?

To give a specific example: I am currently semi-involved in a Swedish discussion on objectification, how women’s looks affect their career chances, and similare. A late-comer to the discussion is the commenter “Tanja”, whose three comments to date (in translation, no attempts to improve the original language) consist of:

I have not had managed [bothered, had the endurance] to read all the comments right now, but I wonder one thing. You men who are annoyed [angered] about good-looking women having advantages – how much time, work, and money do you invested in looking good? [I contend that she has misunderstood what the men actually say, but that is a different matter.]

The thinking with me is that there is obviously an opinion that men are disadvantaged in the area “get advantages for being good looking and sexy”. I wonder how many of the men who complain over not having access to a lot of privileges like good-looking women have themselves tried to look good. I am genuinely curious.

As exalted as over what? Feel free to explain.
Besides this I still would like to have an answer to my question.

This with regard to a long comment thread and three comments (two by me) explicitly addressing her—the shortest of which is longer than her own longest.


Written by michaeleriksson

November 17, 2010 at 5:55 pm

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  1. Subtle trolling, in my opinion.


    November 17, 2010 at 6:01 pm

  2. Not trolling actually, simply female psychology. In most cases, a female asking a question is not interested in the answer itself but to start a communication, and you, a rational man, took it verbally. What a pity. You should have answered something like that: “It’s very interesting to communicate with you. It seems you have wit and prove to be open minded for rational discussions, and I also appreciate your concerns about beauty and attractiveness. Besides, what is your preferred hair color?”
    Oh, I could have been so successful with Swedish woman! Why don’t I speak Swedish ;-)))


    November 26, 2010 at 10:28 am

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